A Day in The Life of a North Indian Groom

We told you about the packing, the bridal lehengas,the shopping, the planning.  And then we realized we have been biased! Too much from the brides end and nothing for the groom. So we decided to do a know it all groom post!  Lets begin with the northern part of our country !

Day in a groom's life.

Let us take a look into a North Indian Groom’s timeline on the Wedding Day. After haldi ceremony (Pooja) at home, The Groom dressed in Paijama/Kurti’s or Sherwani Suits or even Blazers and Trousers starts the journey to the venue when the sehra bandi is done (placing the sehra on his head). The Groom sitting on a Horse/Chariot accompanied by Family and friends with music and all guests dancing. The procession starts from the entrance and goes till the venue (Mandap) where the pheras will happen. This procession is known as ‘Baraat’ (auto correct did suggested me Borat :-P).  Baraat is my favourite part in Indian weddings. The Groom will be welcomed by the Bride’s family (in Punjabi weddings the brides sisters will tie a ribbon on the entrance and the groom has to give some shagun money to cut the ribbon) and will be seated in the Mandap. As per the auspicious time (Muhurat), The Groom & the Bride then exchange garlands. Meanwhile, Will be a Bunch of girls (The Bride’s sister’s) searching for Groom’s Footwear to hide it. Once the footwear is in the hands of the bride’s sister’s then the Groom will have to pay them money to get the Footwear back. This adds to the entertainment and fun in North indian marriages. The Groom and The bride will then sit in front of Fire with a Priest running the show. He will recite Sanskrit verses which will be explained to bride and groom and they have to act as per his instructions. Then the bride and groom will circle the fire (Phera). After this, the bride’s parents and family will see off the bride and groom which is the end of a Wedding function, but not bride & Groom’s. The Bride and Groom after reaching Groom’s house will have to sit for some more rituals.

The Meaning:

Now if we take a step back and look at the smart preparation part. The groom has to decide about what he is going to wear for the wedding day. If the bride and Groom wear’s something which compliments each other, they will look Elegant. The Groom and the bride should discuss shop together or use smart applications to assist and make their task easier. The Groom has to set up a house for bringing his newly wedded wife. Irrespective of what the girl does, Traditional Indian families, the boys has to do the necessary planning and arrangements to keep his newly wedded wife happy and safe. As I say, marriage is not about two people falling in love and planning to live together, but it is the beginning of a new life where a boy becomes a Man and start taking responsibility of his Family in all ways.