The Auspicious 7 pheras!

Until you take those 7 rounds around the fire amidst chanting of the mantras your Indian wedding isn’t complete. The 7 (saat) pheras in Indian weddings are always the highlight of the wedding. The bride and groom make 7 vows to each other which they promise to fulfill to make their married life happier. Ever wondered what they mean and what  are you getting yourself into :P:P ( I always nag my husband saying you made this promise while getting married!! ) Good to know these vows before you make them to your life partner!

I always wanted these 7 pheras to be a part of my wedding card in some way or the other! And my card designer did a very good job! Without much delay here is snapshot of my own wedding card with the 7 pheras explained ! The mantras have their own meaning and we tried to make it as simple as we could in english!

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There is a very famous hindi song also related to the 7 pheras. Hope you like it and this infoormation is of all the help understanding your wedding vows.

The Perfect Family Sunday – How Married People divide work

After 5 working days everyone waits for the weekend. Sunday is the day most of us sit back at home, finish some personal work, spend some quality time with family. It is also the day which reminds us that “Tomorrow we got to go to office”. We had earlier posted an infographic (http://wp.me/p2T1CS-dx) on how a boy & girl spend their weekend before getting married. Let us see how married people spend Sunday’s. We have created an infographic and its self explanatory.

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A Family Sunday

We belive that the above Infographic had answered some common questions 😉 . Above and below all, this may not be the scenario at every home, we have created this based on research with a tinch of humour :P.

A medicine for the In-Law Fever!!

I know it’s a sensitive topic and its exclusively for the girl out there who are getting prepared to take the new role of daughter in law. For the boys out there, I have found its been easy to blend up with your in-laws ( the reason for this is still to be found out 😉 ) and it’s always seen that after marriage girls need to adjust and adapt themselves to the new circumstances and boys remain the same and happy.

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Behind every marriage there is some story, be it a love story or the story where parents find a girl for their boy or boy for their girl. Father & Mother, they play two roles in a marriage 1) The role of a parent, 2) The new role which is ‘In-laws’. The in-laws be it the girl’s or boy’s both or either of them will be in pressure of how to handle The In-laws. We at theknotstory did some research on this and we came out with some easy ways on how to become a daughter and not Daughter Inlaw.

Once the marriage is fixed it’s quite common that bride and the groom come close to each other, they try to understand each other and starts planning for a better future. they often talk over phone, Skype and meet each other when ever possible (in fact they create more and more opportunities to meet each other 😉 ) these days are considered to be the best and most memorable days of our life. In addition to this it would be better if the bride can start calling her would be in-laws once in a while and inquire about their health, about the food cooked by mother in law, sent small gifts as token of love for them etc. This will definitely make them happy and they will be eager to welcome the new daughter in the family.(yeah!! exceptions are there 😦 😦 )

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I am not telling this will make things easier and simple, let’s make a good try from our side. If we think from their point of view they are going to share the love and care of their boy with someone else; and the interesting part here is that they are the one who dream the most about their son getting married and about their daughter in law managing the house and them. Unfortunately, not every changes after the marriage does not come as expected from both sides. Is it because the in-laws couldn’t find a perfect daughter in law (as per their expectation) or the in-laws expect a lot from the daughter in-laws???

Here we can put in little effort to study the new family where we are going to enter into. The best way is to spent more time with them. You can accompany your in-laws during the wedding shopping, have lunch with them etc.,by such few meetings you would get a glimpse of your in-laws. This would help you to prepare and adapt yourself better after marriage. This blog of mine cannot change whats been going on over years irrespective of the country, culture or religion. It’s a small effort from our side to tackle your in-laws better 😛 😛

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Wedding Planning 002 : Guest conveyance & Guest Accomodation

We believe you have read our previous post on Guest Management, In case if you haven’t, here it is http://wp.me/p2T1CS-cB   Second part of Guest Management is Accommodation & Conveyance for guests. We wrote about the initial part, which involves preparing guest list & inviting, that is just the beginning. We always like to give you smart tips on how to manage accommodation & transportation for the guests. Read on.

Here is what we suggest:

The very basic thing for doing this is to create a list of guests who are going to arrive for the wedding in advance and also how they are arriving. For this, we need to get RSVP’s of people which need to be collected using RSVP’s email confirmation, Facebook event or Wedding Site or a Phone call. Try to get the itineraries of the guests so that it will be easy to plan and manage guest pick up. Prior to this, accommodation arrangement need to be done for guests, if you are getting both the confirmation early it will be better. Booking in advance will save some money and reduce the last-minute confusion seen in getting accommodations. This happens when weddings are planned at some tourist locations or places of some significance like holy places etc.

Once we have the accommodation arrangements and transportation arrangements done, it will be good to do a follow-up on both a week before marriage just check on everything. After this, the pickup of guests should be sorted out with vehicles assigned to the pick up as per number of guests. Guest pick up need to be managed by one person and assisted by another to ease the job & cross check. This should be assigned to someone from family or someone who knows the guests arriving. If this is not possible, the driver should be provided with Name Placards of the respective guests to be picked up. One of the family members should be in the hotels/apartments to welcome the guests who are coming in. Guest list should be updated with the people who arrived, who are yet to arrive by coordinating with the person who is going for picking up.rsvp

For   maximum attention and interaction with guests, it will be good if the guest accommodation and host accommodation is in the same place or nearby place at least. The day guests arrive; invite them for a private gathering which will act as an ice-breaking session too. This can be mapped to the mehandi/sangeet function where all ladies come and get their hands decorated with Mehandi. Apart from this, if the guests are interested in a vacation and wedding, then we at TheKnotstory can get you good packages for the same.

Theknotstory Tips:

  • Try to book the accommodation at minimum distance from the Wedding venue to avoid unnecessary delays and also reduce the transportation. Best if guest accommodation is done at the same place where wedding happens.( Not feasible always though)
  • Always keep someone in charge to welcome, manage guests, this gives a homely feeling for guests.
  • Plan some small entertainment/sightseeing program for guests.
  • Last but not the least, keep buffer time, back up of people & vehicle which can be utilized in case of last-minute surprises.

Plan, Organize, Manage your weddings anywhere, when in doubt we at Theknotstory are here.            

Wedding Planning 001 : Guest List & Wedding Invites!

Once the wedding dates are fixed, before you make all the other arrangements the most important thing to do is prepare you wedding guest list. I remember my pre-wedding days, Parents had a separate list of their friends and relatives; same with my siblings. It took a lot of time and energy to coordinate with every one and prepare a proper guest list. In fact, I didn’t get a chance to search for applications, gadgets which could help me in managing my wedding invitations. Now, there are enough and more options, but we would like to give you some smart tips, So your learn from the mistakes I made and make use of your time effectively!

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Preparing the Wedding Guest List:

Once the Wedding date is fixed, the guest list preparation should start and for this you need inputs from relatives also. To make this part simple, let us split this task. For example if you are the bride’s family then list looks like the one below:

Bride’s wedding Guest List prepared should include people whom she would like to invite. Same way, bride’s brother, sister etc can make their own list (of course with the approval of the bride as its her wedding). Senior members of the family should provide the list of family members who need to be invited. Once all individual lists are ready, prepare the Master Wedding Guest List. By doing so, there is very less probability to miss someone who is supposed to be invited. Also, When the Master Wedding Guest list is prepared using the individual lists, duplication chances are less like sending multiple invites to same person. Now this is pretty simple way and no gadget is required for preparing list. A better way is use an excel sheet, which can be filled by different persons and prepare final guest list from that.

You can also use some applications for preparing guest lists. Google itself is providing everything for planning wedding here http://www.google.co.in/weddings/. You can also go for wedding planner applications which can be installed on smartphones. Google Play store, Apple Itunes store etc have plenty of applications for these purposes.

Wedding Invite:  The next step is inviting the guests. Here we can go for any of the below options.

Classic Way – The Wedding Cards:

Traditional invitations are wedding cards. You can select a card with the design and details of the function. These can be delivered using postal facility or courier. Other than just the wedding card, calling the guest using phone and reminding them about the marriage is also a good thing to do. Then there are few special guests whom we need to go physically and invite. The physical invite need to be planned as it takes a day or more from your tight wedding schedule. This can be done by sorting out the list route wise and going and inviting them.

Smart Way – Online Wedding Invites:

The easiest of the lot, not feasible for all though. We can save time, money & manage invites easier by doing this online. This way it is easy to invite people who are staying at distant places or different countries also. For this, create a Wedding site with necessary details about the bride, the groom, the family, the story and what not. There are lots of sites available which are free for creating wedding invites. Email the people to be invited with the wedding site link (URL). People can RSVP and respond.

A smarter way is to use social networking sites for inviting the guests. Social networking site Facebook is a good example. Create a Facebook event for the Wedding and invite people using that event invite. The Wedding site URL can be integrated in the Facebook Event. Depending on the number of RSVP responses, we will get an approximate number of guests who are going to attend the wedding. This will help in budgeting, arranging food, transportation, accommodation etc.

The above ways are based on our personal experiences . Other than these, we can use Smart Phone applications to plan the wedding, invites etc. There are lots of applications for the same in Google Play Store, Itunes store etc.

Watch out for more tips from us on guest management..

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The Arranged “Bride” :D


Yeah we know it’s all about embracing the western culture these days.  And to some the typical arranged marriage thing may not appeal . But it is what it is . Arranged marriages still are an integral part of the Indian Culture. So the other day we were discussing the entire process and the pro’s and con’s of just putting yourself out there ( now we are not at all getting in the debate ). If you may say its blind dating! (with officially involving your parents )!  Coming to think about it, Dating like the west with an Indian touch to it 😛  So instead of writing down the whole process of how you seal the deal on your bride 😉 We give you an infograph of how an arranged marriage bride is selected! And if you  have an experience you would like to share on your arranged shaadi write to us! Or if you are going to experience the same also write to us with your excitements, anxiety, fears and queries.

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xoxo Thekntostory.