Boy & Girl First Meeting – Do’s & Dont’s

 In India, marriages are arranged by Family of the boy and girl. It starts from the two families meeting and checking the horoscope match after which the boy’s family meets the girl. After this only, the boy gets a chance to meet the girl. There are different variants to the same culture though.

We are writting about the Do’s & Dont’s part when the Boy Meets the Girl for the First time. Earlier we had written about the First Date.

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  • Do not jump into conclusions.

When you meet someone for the first time, it is not necessary that you get to know about that person. Go with an open mind and a positive attitude. Try to see if the person is comfortable speaking to you, her likes, dislikes etc. On the first meeting, plan for the next date also if possible.

  •  No False Promises:

Sometimes it happens that we fall in love with a person at the first sight itself, then we forgets about ourselves. The very next moment onward, every action will be to impress that person. This means, there is a probability where we hide things or habits from the person because she doesn’t like it. Do not do this, in case if you have a habit which you think you can leave, tell that. Do not hide anything.

  •  Choosing the Right Place

While arranging the first meeting, arrange it somewhere silent. Not too loud. Mostly the boy and boy’s family goes to the girls house. There the first meeting happens. Most of us live far away from our home and hence it happens that family meets the girl/girl’s family first and then the guy meets the girl. Choose a place with good ambiance, a bit silent, Not too crowded. Somewhere you can sit and talk without disturbance.

  •  Be Calm:

There will be loads of excitement, curiosity & tension while meeting for first time. Be calm, composed and make the other person comfortable. Now, this ain’t the beginning of a Love story, this is the initial step for marriage. Here you may not get a chance for date and go out a lot. Some families are a bit more conservative which means that there are Fewer chances of boy meeting girl multiple times or going on date. Remember, girls are sensitive and mostly a bit worried about the first meeting. So behave normal, be normal and remember, first impression is the  best impression.  Do not send the wrong signal by planning a lot of imaginary things in the first date itself.

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First Date!!!

Courtship they say is the best time of your life spent ! It is always told that the pre-wedding days are the best spent days in your life if you look at your love life. These days are more memorable,exciting and romantic than the honeymoon days ( some might not agree :P:P ) . During these days you are treated as king/queen by your partner ;).  You get to know each other in a whole different way than before! You would be showered with love, care and surprise gifts. The whole feeling can only be experienced and not expressed 😀
The day you meet your partner is going to be the most memorable day of your life( if you know he/she is your’s for the rest of the eternity that is! and yes you will sure get this feeling once you meet them! ). The first date, make it as special as you can. In case of arranged marriages, mostly parents would accompany you when you meet your date for the first time.  But you can always arrange a special date with your would be (with or without the permission of parents in India 😉 ). Its up to you and your partner to make it so special and memorable as these are the moments which you are going to cherish for ever.
Coming to the vebue, One thing I can suggest you guys here is never limit your budget for your first date, budgeting can be done during wedding and not first date . You can select a good restaurant with perfect ambiance,  nothing better than a romantic candle light dinner. You can select a nice beach facing restaurant, or a luxurious high rise restaurant or that one special place, as per your wish and convenience you guys can plan accordingly. Since this is going to be a memorable moment purchase a special gift for your partner. It need not be too expensive, but something special to cherish the beautiful moment in future. Enjoy your first date guys !!!
Coming soon: First gift!!
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