Yeah we know it’s all about embracing the western culture these days. And to some the typical arranged marriage thing may not appeal . But it is what it is . Arranged marriages still are an integral part of the Indian Culture. So the other day we were discussing the entire process and the pro’s and con’s of just putting yourself out there ( now we are not at all getting in the debate ). If you may say its blind dating! (with officially involving your parents )! Coming to think about it, Dating like the west with an Indian touch to it 😛 So instead of writing down the whole process of how you seal the deal on your bride 😉 We give you an infograph of how an arranged marriage bride is selected! And if you have an experience you would like to share on your arranged shaadi write to us! Or if you are going to experience the same also write to us with your excitements, anxiety, fears and queries.
We told you about the packing, the bridal lehengas,the shopping, the planning. And then we realized we have been biased! Too much from the brides end and nothing for the groom. So we decided to do a know it all groom post! Lets begin with the northern part of our country !
Let us take a look into a North Indian Groom’s timeline on the Wedding Day. After haldi ceremony (Pooja) at home, The Groom dressed in Paijama/Kurti’s or Sherwani Suits or even Blazers and Trousers starts the journey to the venue when the sehra bandi is done (placing the sehra on his head). The Groom sitting on a Horse/Chariot accompanied by Family and friends with music and all guests dancing. The procession starts from the entrance and goes till the venue (Mandap) where the pheras will happen. This procession is known as ‘Baraat’ (auto correct did suggested me Borat :-P). Baraat is my favourite part in Indian weddings. The Groom will be welcomed by the Bride’s family (in Punjabi weddings the brides sisters will tie a ribbon on the entrance and the groom has to give some shagun money to cut the ribbon) and will be seated in the Mandap. As per the auspicious time (Muhurat), The Groom & the Bride then exchange garlands. Meanwhile, Will be a Bunch of girls (The Bride’s sister’s) searching for Groom’s Footwear to hide it. Once the footwear is in the hands of the bride’s sister’s then the Groom will have to pay them money to get the Footwear back. This adds to the entertainment and fun in North indian marriages. The Groom and The bride will then sit in front of Fire with a Priest running the show. He will recite Sanskrit verses which will be explained to bride and groom and they have to act as per his instructions. Then the bride and groom will circle the fire (Phera). After this, the bride’s parents and family will see off the bride and groom which is the end of a Wedding function, but not bride & Groom’s. The Bride and Groom after reaching Groom’s house will have to sit for some more rituals.
Now if we take a step back and look at the smart preparation part. The groom has to decide about what he is going to wear for the wedding day. If the bride and Groom wear’s something which compliments each other, they will look Elegant. The Groom and the bride should discuss shop together or use smart applications to assist and make their task easier. The Groom has to set up a house for bringing his newly wedded wife. Irrespective of what the girl does, Traditional Indian families, the boys has to do the necessary planning and arrangements to keep his newly wedded wife happy and safe. As I say, marriage is not about two people falling in love and planning to live together, but it is the beginning of a new life where a boy becomes a Man and start taking responsibility of his Family in all ways.
We are a bunch of newly weds who are here to share with you our journey towards and after the wedding. Also to help you plan and live life easier through the jitters. You sure can share your ideas, experiences, suggestions, opinions and anything and everything related to marriage and after. We currently are trying to give support on everything related to marriage as the season is on. Then integrate more, so on and so forth. We will be doing this for a couple of cities now and later expand our horizon to more.
Marriage begins with the Girl and the Boy. It sounds simple, but it includes loads of key factors. The Family, Love, the bond, Expectations, Dreams, Planning, Implementation, Living the moment, Planning the future and the story that begins with a knot continues. By now you must be thinking what are we doing here!! We are here for The Boy/The Girl/The Family/The Friends right from the moment they meet for the very first time. We ain’t Love Gurus or Fashionistas or great Philosophers, but we are what you are, the common people. We understand and relate to what you feel when it comes to Marriage and we are here to help/support within our full capacity, experience, knowledge and ideas. We and you together can make your life memorable by sharing and supporting.
We are a bunch from different part of India. Our experience in marriages include from southern tip to northern tip. We are not from a single state in India, but from different parts of India. We have thorough knowledge, access to resources, contacts and necessary people and places for Planning, shopping, Wedding Cards, Photography, hosting the auspicious occasion Catering, Transportation, Pandit, Band Baaja and all. We are the one stop shop, where as for you getting these things done is a bit difficult. We are not brokers, but will definitely love to attend the wedding though. 😛 ”
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